Are you doing these 3 things that the best Relationship builders do?
TRY THIS...
The simplest way to build positive relationships is to do what GREAT relationship builders do.
1. Make the relationship the priority - I don’t mean more important than the kids, or your health. I mean approaching situations with the intention of keeping the relationship in tact or better still, improving it. It means saying - ‘What is my priority here?’ and answering ‘relationship as well as result’.
2. Make the time - You already do, you say? If you mean ‘one to ones’ or ‘team days’ where you talk about the same topic in the same place at the same time that doesn’t count. UNLESS you are talking about the relationship or doing something to improve it. These are called ‘meta conversations’ (conversations about your conversations) - that’s what my workshops do - you explore how you talk & interact. Talk to me about it.
3. Create a safe space - Our nervous system is wired to connect when we feel safe, and responds to eye contact (enough to feel fully seen and heard) warmth and comfort (actual warmth and comfort or visual comfort - more coffee shop than prison cell) and familiarity (having the same tone, pace, words and gestures repeated back to us to show alignment). Ideally you want to hold space, which requires emotional awareness from you. When in doubt let nature help you and go outside. Green spaces & bird song give a great sense of safety.
SOMETHING TO PONDER...
Who makes you feel safe? - what are they doing? Could you do that?
Where and for who are you already doing these 3 things and what do you notice about the quality of that relationship?
SOMETHING FOR LATER...
If you are new to the idea of holding space - watch this 3 minute video. It’s something I consciously do in my workshops and am always happy to talk about - just get in touch.