Are you making this Critical Relationship Decision?
TRY THIS...
We make 100s, if not 1000s of tiny relationship decisions every day, and each of those decisions can change the future of that relationship.
Yet the advice about exactly what to do can be a bit overwhelming because we need to adapt to suit the context and the person, allow for personality and background and the time of day and the weather or the colour of their socks… it’s an overthinkers paradise.
But there is one decision you can’t get wrong.
The decision to be PRESENT and give your undivided attention.
Be less… modern human and more meerkat.
In person that means:
Look up from what you are doing.
Put the phone away (not upside down - OFF the table - it’s an uninvited lurker)
Step away from the keyboard.
Turn your back on your screen.
Turn your chair to face them.
Imagine you are on your very first date with the wo/man of your dreams… hanging on their every word.
Virtual?
The same principle applies but I think it’s harder… shut out whatever you can, noises, tabs, notifications and end the call before your mind starts to wander.
If you want to get better at this, talk to me about my S.A.F.E.R communication model.
SOMETHING TO PONDER...
None of us do this 100% of the time, but don’t panic, you are allowed some slip ups.
It’s all about the ratio of good to bad encounters.. and that magic ratio is 5:1.
SOMETHING FOR LATER...
And here is a 3 minute video about the power of small daily decisions.